Wearing Many Hats
I'm sure that many of you are like me, and that you wear many hats depending on the day and what someone needs. Of course I am speaking from my own perspective as a mother, grandmother, daughter, sister, friend, sole proprietor of my own business, and long time partner to an Italian man.
As a mother of two grown daughters I have found that just because they are on their own does not mean that I have stopped worrying. Now that they have children I may worry more, because I have my three beautiful grandchildren who have taken a precious and permanent spot in my heart. As much as I step back and let them take charge of their lives, I still stand in the shadows and worry, and wait for them to need me. After all isn't that what mothers and grandmothers are for - to be there when they are needed. The reward of spending time with my children and grandchildren is a gift beyond anything I could ask for.
Being a daughter brings a bond with our mothers like no other. I am very fortunate to have a mother that I also consider a friend. As the years go by our roles change, and we worry about them as they worried about us. If we are lucky they are in good health and we have them with us for a very long time. I enjoy spending time with my mother whether it be going to lunch or taking her to the airport when she travels.
As a sister (I have four sisters and one brother) I will always be there when any of them are in need. I may not have the financial means to help, but I can support them in many other ways. Whether it be listening when they have a problem, taking them shopping, to the airport, or to Boston since I know the way better and am not afraid to drive there. Being able to help them is important to me.
My role as a friend I take very seriously, and am always here whenever needed. I am one who can count her close, lifelong friends on two hands. It is not easy to let people in, but when the connection is made it is for life. They know I will listen or help however I can. Each one of these friends is very dear to me.
Being self employed keeps life interesting as one day is never like the next. I could be doing administrative work on my computer, attending meetings, counting metallic pearls for my sister or helping her with a trade show. And then there are days I will be baking pies and cakes. Never dull or boring for sure, and I wouldn't change a thing.
Last, but not least, is my long time relationship with a first generation American, Italian man. He likes to believe he is the typical Italian head of the house, and I let him think he is most of the time. He is a good, kind hearted man who makes me laugh, and at times can make me crazy. My running joke with him is that "when I do not have to work and can sit at home eating bonbons, then I will be the typical Italian homemaker". We share many of the same interests and watching a Patriots game with him is an adventure. Sometimes I think he has more moves than the players.
Although these many hats can be exhausting at times, I would not give up any of them. Each is special in its own way and I don't think I would know what to do if I was not "needed". One of my lifelong friends once told me, "Pam - that is what you do. You take care of people". So I guess I will continue to wear my many hats and cherish each one.
As a mother of two grown daughters I have found that just because they are on their own does not mean that I have stopped worrying. Now that they have children I may worry more, because I have my three beautiful grandchildren who have taken a precious and permanent spot in my heart. As much as I step back and let them take charge of their lives, I still stand in the shadows and worry, and wait for them to need me. After all isn't that what mothers and grandmothers are for - to be there when they are needed. The reward of spending time with my children and grandchildren is a gift beyond anything I could ask for.
Being a daughter brings a bond with our mothers like no other. I am very fortunate to have a mother that I also consider a friend. As the years go by our roles change, and we worry about them as they worried about us. If we are lucky they are in good health and we have them with us for a very long time. I enjoy spending time with my mother whether it be going to lunch or taking her to the airport when she travels.
As a sister (I have four sisters and one brother) I will always be there when any of them are in need. I may not have the financial means to help, but I can support them in many other ways. Whether it be listening when they have a problem, taking them shopping, to the airport, or to Boston since I know the way better and am not afraid to drive there. Being able to help them is important to me.
My role as a friend I take very seriously, and am always here whenever needed. I am one who can count her close, lifelong friends on two hands. It is not easy to let people in, but when the connection is made it is for life. They know I will listen or help however I can. Each one of these friends is very dear to me.
Being self employed keeps life interesting as one day is never like the next. I could be doing administrative work on my computer, attending meetings, counting metallic pearls for my sister or helping her with a trade show. And then there are days I will be baking pies and cakes. Never dull or boring for sure, and I wouldn't change a thing.
Last, but not least, is my long time relationship with a first generation American, Italian man. He likes to believe he is the typical Italian head of the house, and I let him think he is most of the time. He is a good, kind hearted man who makes me laugh, and at times can make me crazy. My running joke with him is that "when I do not have to work and can sit at home eating bonbons, then I will be the typical Italian homemaker". We share many of the same interests and watching a Patriots game with him is an adventure. Sometimes I think he has more moves than the players.
Although these many hats can be exhausting at times, I would not give up any of them. Each is special in its own way and I don't think I would know what to do if I was not "needed". One of my lifelong friends once told me, "Pam - that is what you do. You take care of people". So I guess I will continue to wear my many hats and cherish each one.
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