When The One We Lean On ...
Relationships with our partner go through many phases over the years. They
ebb and flow through good times and bad, and depending on the circumstances,
each one will have moments that they lean on the other for support.
There is great comfort in knowing there is someone we can turn to during
troubled times. Whether it is just a difficult day or week, or a more
significant event, knowing that there is a shoulder to lean on can minimize the
stress or sorrow. Sometimes we are the rock of support, and other times we will
be the one seeking comfort.
In a perfect world this sharing of life's troubles, and the giving or taking
of support, would flow seamlessly back and forth for as long as we were
together. However, we know nothing in life is perfect and there may come a
time in our lives when the one we have been able to lean on can no longer be
there in that capacity. Through no fault of their own the support they once so
easily gave, they are no longer capable of giving.
This change usually happens gradually and initially we may not feel the loss of support. We are aware that things are not quite what they used to be, but they are still able to be our shoulder to lean on in some capacity. As time passes this ability will come and go until it fades away, and it is no longer possible for them to be there. The sadness we feel for this loss is not only for us, but for our partner.
When this becomes our reality, the time will come when we ask ourselves, who will we lean on now? Our partner that we have always relied on can no longer fill this role. We may not want to share with others when this happens, but we also know there will be times when we are going to need a shoulder to lean on.
If we find ourselves living with someone who is slowly losing the ability to be our rock, we need to think about building a base of support. We should reach out to those close to us, so when we do come to those challenging times, we will have someone there to lean on for support. As we all know, everyone needs a shoulder to lean on every now and then.
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