Manners

In the 1950's good manners were the rule, and also what held our society together. They enabled people to get along with their friends and neighbors without offending or harming them. Good manners were taught at home by parents and reinforced by the community. Adults and children were expected to display good manners at all times and in any situation.

Unfortunately today, good manners seem to be the exception and not the rule in many social situations. With phones, television and social media, children (and many adults) feel they can say or do whatever they want. If they offend or harm another in the process it is of no consequence to them; they move on to the next "target" that may be in their way or have a differing opinion. We have become a self-centered society.

Perhaps it's time to bring back the etiquette of the 50's and expect that everyone display good manners and common courtesy. I'm not saying that all of what was taught back then would apply, but basic good manners always are applicable and should be expected. Here are a few to remember, teach and use every day:

1. When in public dress and talk discreetly. Never do things to draw attention to yourself.
2. On a sidewalk, men should walk closest to the street to protect a lady from passing traffic.
3. Dinner - a family should eat together at the dinner table. This is important for family bonding and communicating. Oh, remember to keep the elbows off the table.
4. Your personal life and finances are your business and should be kept confidential. Nobody really wants to know your business.
5. Don't discuss adult issues with, or in front of children.
6. When going to the home of family or friends, or to a party or event, make sure you arrive on time. Being late is rude to everyone else attending. Also remember not to leave too early or too late, and to thank them as you go.
7. When inside anywhere, or at the table for a meal, take off your hat!!
8. Writing thank you notes. This is a pet peeve of mine. As I told my girls when they were growing up - if someone is nice enough to give you a gift, then you should send a thank you note.
9. Do not interrupt someone else when they are speaking. Wait for them to finish and then you can have your say.
10. Please and thank you - use them!!

I have to believe that society would be a much better place if we all remember to use our manners. Perhaps there would be a lot less negativity in the world.  I think it is certainly is worth the effort.