Anger - Learn To Let It Go
We all get angry and lose our tempers every now and then; some people more and some less. Much of this depends on how we are taught to deal with this emotion.
As children we tend to just let it out not understanding the impact to others - it's an automatic reaction. This is the opportune time to start teaching children how to constructively process anger. They need to know that it's natural to feel this way, but they need to express it in a manner that doesn't hurt others and also allows them to let it go. Without guidance these children grow into teenagers, and then adults, who cannot have healthy relationships. Once something doesn't go as planned that anger rises and they still don't know how to process it.
Hanging on to anger (our own or that which someone directs at us) is so destructive not only to our emotional health, but also our physical health. The longer we let it control us the more we will live in a negative environment. We also will impart this negativity on those closest to us.
There are many things I have said to my children regarding someone directing anger at them:
You can spend your life angry or learn to let it go and live a happy healthy life. Which do you think your children should see?
As children we tend to just let it out not understanding the impact to others - it's an automatic reaction. This is the opportune time to start teaching children how to constructively process anger. They need to know that it's natural to feel this way, but they need to express it in a manner that doesn't hurt others and also allows them to let it go. Without guidance these children grow into teenagers, and then adults, who cannot have healthy relationships. Once something doesn't go as planned that anger rises and they still don't know how to process it.
Hanging on to anger (our own or that which someone directs at us) is so destructive not only to our emotional health, but also our physical health. The longer we let it control us the more we will live in a negative environment. We also will impart this negativity on those closest to us.
There are many things I have said to my children regarding someone directing anger at them:
- If they act in this manner just think how unhappy they must be.
- Don't respond - someone has to be the bigger person.
- How long will you allow this to take up space in your brain?
- You can respond by lashing out in anger, or by walking away with your head held high and dignity in tact.
You can spend your life angry or learn to let it go and live a happy healthy life. Which do you think your children should see?
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