Priorities
Growing up we were taught what our priorities should be, and how to work hard to ensure they were met. We saw our parents work hard to put a roof over our heads, food on the table, and clothes on our back. They drove a modest car, my father went to work every day, and my mother took care of us and our home. Anything over and above these everyday things were extra and a luxury. That is what I learned and what I have tried to pass on to my children.
If you look around today, you know that some people's priorities are turned upside down. Many young adults feel they should have everything their parents do, without recognizing their parents worked years to obtain what they have. They want the latest phone/tablet/e-reader/television, feel they need to drive a new car, and have as many clothes as their closet will hold (or more). Their children are involved in every activity they can possibly get them to, and wonder why these children expect to be entertained all the time. I know they feel they are providing a good life for their families, but more does not necessarily mean better.
I wish they could see that if they provide the basic needs for their family, and spend time together, life becomes much less stressful. Trying to keep up with all the latest toys and gadgets not only puts stress on you financially, but also takes away time you could spend communicating and connecting with family. There are so many things that you can do without spending money that will also build strong family relationships. Go for a walk or hike, play cards or a board game, rake leaves into a pile and jump in, cook a meal together or bake cookies - and so many other fun things to do.
There was a time in my life that I could be influenced by new things as none of us are immune from what we see on our television screen. They make it look so desirable and convince us that we should have it. We also wanted to do as much as we could for our children so they would fit in with their peers. However, my children did not have anywhere near what others had, and they would confirm this. I'm sure at times they felt deprived even though their needs were met.
I do know at this point in my life I have less material things than I did in the past, but those things I do not miss or need. I have become very aware of what my needs are and realize everything else is not that important. What is important is the time I am able to spend with my family and friends. They are my priorities.
If you look around today, you know that some people's priorities are turned upside down. Many young adults feel they should have everything their parents do, without recognizing their parents worked years to obtain what they have. They want the latest phone/tablet/e-reader/television, feel they need to drive a new car, and have as many clothes as their closet will hold (or more). Their children are involved in every activity they can possibly get them to, and wonder why these children expect to be entertained all the time. I know they feel they are providing a good life for their families, but more does not necessarily mean better.
I wish they could see that if they provide the basic needs for their family, and spend time together, life becomes much less stressful. Trying to keep up with all the latest toys and gadgets not only puts stress on you financially, but also takes away time you could spend communicating and connecting with family. There are so many things that you can do without spending money that will also build strong family relationships. Go for a walk or hike, play cards or a board game, rake leaves into a pile and jump in, cook a meal together or bake cookies - and so many other fun things to do.
There was a time in my life that I could be influenced by new things as none of us are immune from what we see on our television screen. They make it look so desirable and convince us that we should have it. We also wanted to do as much as we could for our children so they would fit in with their peers. However, my children did not have anywhere near what others had, and they would confirm this. I'm sure at times they felt deprived even though their needs were met.
I do know at this point in my life I have less material things than I did in the past, but those things I do not miss or need. I have become very aware of what my needs are and realize everything else is not that important. What is important is the time I am able to spend with my family and friends. They are my priorities.
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